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January 12, 2009
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Monday, January 12, 2009
Sorry it has taken so long for our first update since returning
home from China. Life has been hectic, wonderful, challenging,
exciting, and exhausting as we all adjust to being a family of
four.
The trip home was looooooooooong! We began our Christmas morning
bright and early (after a night filled with many tears as Lexi
struggled to sleep). We had planned to get up earlier than we
did, but the 2 hours of Lexi crying overnight had us all
exhausted, and we slept in until the early hour of 5am. Zoe was
excited to find that Santa had left a brown teddy bear for her
and a white one for Lexi! We quickly showered, finished packing,
put our luggage out for pick-up, and ran down to breakfast. We
met our bus and the six other families flying with us at 6:45am.
The first leg of our trip from Guangzhou to Beijing was by far
the worst! Lexi’s ears were bothering her and she screamed …
literally … for 2 hours straight. There must have been 30
Chinese women that kept turning around to glare and me in my
inablilty to calm her down. I was so overwhelmed! Thankfully, a
Canadian woman who had spent the past three years teaching in
China came to help me. She got down on Lexi’s level and spoke to
her in gentle Chinese baby talk. It was so wonderful to see Lexi
light up and listen so intently! She taught me a few phrases,
and that seemed to help me get through that flight. In Beijing,
we had a 5 hour layover but we had to pick up and recheck our
baggage, change terminals, and check in for our international
flight. We also needed to get through customs and security. All
that took us a good three and a half hours. Then we found a
restaurant that served a version of western food. Rob and I
split a burger, and Zoe and Lexi shared spaghetti. They both
managed to get themselves completely covered in sauce but I
decided not to change than as I only had one change of clothing
for each of them. Two hours into our flight from Beijing to
Chicago, Zoe was huffing and puffing, repeatedly stating, “I’m
bored!” Thankfully, she fell asleep thirty minutes later and
then proceeded to sleep for about ten and a half hours. Lexi was
much calmer for this leg of the trip and managed to sleep off
and on for about eight and a half hours. Rob managed about five
hours of rest while I think I managed about two.
Right before we arrived in Chicago, I changed both girls and my
own shirt so we would be somewhat clean for our meeting with
Grandma Arp and Auntie Laura. When we landed in Chicago, all the
adopted families were expedited through customs and we actually
made it through in under two hours. The first time we took a
bathroom break in the US, Zoe washed her hands and she looked up
at me with a gleam in her eyes. She said, “Mommy, can I put my
hands in my mouth after I wash them?” I nodded my head, and then
she stuffed both clean wet hands in her mouth with a huge grin.
I smiled at her as she said, “It’s good to be back in the United
States!” I couldn’t agree more!
We had the chance to spend a little over and hour visiting with
Grandma Arp and Auntie Laura. Lexi surprised us all as she
allowed Auntie Laura, her soon to be Godmother, to hold her and
carry her around!
Both girls slept the entire last leg of the trip as we travelled
from Chicago back to the northeast. We landed just past midnight
(about 36 or so hours later than when we had woken up to begin
our trip). Our good friend, Merri Lee, met us at the airport and
drove us home. Our bed was a sight for sore eyes and we all
practically passed out that night!
If my blurred memory serves correctly, we began that first night
with Lexi in our bed along with Rob and me, while Zoe crashed on
our floor. At some point, during that night/day, Rob ended up in
Zoe’s bed. The next few days were a blur as we struggled with
jetlag and sleep issues. We had planned to do the family bed
with Lexi, but we quickly discovered two things. Lexi is an
incredibly light sleeper and if we so much as rolled over, she
would wake up and scream for an hour before going back to sleep.
We also discovered that she wanted to sleep in the bed with
Mommy, but would get VERY angry if Daddy tried sleeping with us
as well. THAT wasn’t going over well with Mommy … I’m sorry but
Daddy was here first. So at some point, we put the pack-n-play
in our bedroom. But she would cry for hours and again would
awaken if one of us rolled over. I was a basket case by the time
my parents arrived the following Monday. I.was.not.sleeping. and
I was beyond exhausted!
Thankfully, Lexi would let my mother hold her (she screamed if
Rob, Zoe, or my Dad tried). But Mom could comfort her which
meant I actually got an hour or two of sleep each afternoon. I
also had a heart to heart with my Mom about Lexi’s sleeping or
lack there of. She talked me into trying to let her sleep in her
crib. We had fully intended to do the family bed with her which
we had done with Zoe. But Lexi was such a light sleeper that it
was not working AT ALL. Even the pack-n-play in our room was a
bust. Because I was holding her throughout the day and always
kept her in my sight (I was her calm place) I decided to try and
let her sleep in her crib at night. Both Mom and my pediatrician
suggested this would be a good idea. Since my lack of sleep was
causing me to be a less than stellar mother to either daughter,
I agreed to give it a try. |
Auntie Laura & Lexi.
Zoe with her Nai Nai.
Our family of four after 36 hours of travel ...
can you say tired!?!
Thank goodness for big sisters the first time you try a carseat!
Zoe with Granmommy & Grandaddy during our Christmas celebration.
Getting to know Grandaddy .. just don't get too close!
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After a few days of trial and error,
I finally came up with a plan that seems to work. I hold her
throughout her morning nap each day. She goes in her crib for
her afternoon nap. During this time Zoe and I spend quality big
girl together. If Lexi has not slept long enough at her
afternoon nap, when she wakes up, I hold her, rock her, and
allow her to sleep a little longer. Thankfully, at nighttime she
sleeps in her crib. In the evening, she only cries for a couple
of minutes before drifting off.
We shared a wonderful Christmas with my parents on New Year’s
Day. Lexi handled all the excitement well and Zoe, being five,
LOVED everything about the day!
My parents left a couple of days later, Rob returned to work,
Zoe went back to preschool, and we all started to fall into a
routine. With sleeping coming along, we have been able to work
on some behavioral issues with Zoe, and her relationship with
her sister seems to now be coming along beautifully. One of my
favorite times of day is mealtime. Zoe and Lexi will sit in
their seats and instead of eating, they just sit there and
giggle. They appear to really crack each other up, and it’s too
cute!
When Lexi gets particularly angry with her sister, which she
does when she is being hugged too tight, picked up, or gently
pushed upon, Zoe has been heard saying repeatedly, “You know
Lexi, you just need to learn that I was here first!”
This past Tuesday was probably the most challenging day we have
faced, and I finally told Rob I was taking Zoe to a friend’s
house. He was to care for Lexi while I exercised. Up until that
point, I had done little to take care of my own well-being and I
knew exercise was going to be really important. Rob and Lexi
went to the mall (she only screamed for a couple of minutes tgen
shared some ice cream with her Daddy). I got to work out and
listen to really great music. To say that hour of “me time” made
all the difference in the world would be a vast understatement!
Now Rob and Lexi have a standing date on Tuesday and Thursday
nights while I go exercise. Zoe will either play at a friend’s
house or hang out in the gym playroom during that time.
Life is very good! We are all incredibly blessed and are so
grateful that Lexi is now part of our lives! I promise to try
and update to let you all know how we are doing on a monthly
basis so please check back and see what we are up to. My hope is
that someday soon I’ll be able to take a shower, fix supper, and
maybe even put on a little make-up without a beautiful baby
screaming in the background. She’s coming along, and I KNOW that
she won’t want me to hold her all the time when she goes to
kindergarten someday. These early days are challenging but they
are also incredibly rewarding!
Thank you so much for following and sharing in our journey to
complete our family! Until next month … |
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