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Friday, December 19, 2008
I just love waking up early in the morning before my family
does. I stand in our hotel room and gaze at each of them … Rob,
laying on his side with covers up to his neck, Zoe, all curled
up on her tummy and buried under the blankets, and Lexi,
sprawled on her back with both hands strew out beside her. I can
hardly believe that a few weeks ago I called my Mom in tears,
afraid that I would not feel a love as strong for Lexi as I do
for Rob and Zoe! I knew my heart would grow bigger with this
adoption but could not fathom it was possible. Well, Lexi has
stolen my heart as her sister did four years ago. The history of
experience I have had with Zoe is not there yet, but Lexi is
MINE and apparently I am hers. Our bond continues to grow
stronger daily.
With the exception of walking down to breakfast yesterday, I
have carried Lexi everywhere in the carrier. My hips are
starting to feel it but I hope to carry her as much as my body
will possibly allow me to. She needs to be close to me, to feel
the rise and fall of my chest when I breathe, to hear my
heartbeat, and to feel my hands gently caress her back or hold
her to me when she falls asleep in my arms. She is learning that
I am her Mommy and has actually begun to call me Mama … what a
sweet sound to my ears!
I have made it a point when we are in the room to give Lexi
floor time. She sits and plays with her toys exploring each of
them with an avid curiosity. It is during this time that I scoop
my big girl into my arms and hold her tight showering her with
kisses and whispering sweet nothings in her ears. These special
moments are making it easier for Zoe to share me. I know she
longs to be carried as I carry her sister, but she is adjusting
to the changes in our family. There is something wonderful that
seems to be blossoming between Zoe and Daddy as Lexi and I spend
so much time together. They are becoming closer. Zoe has always
been a Mama’s girl … big time! Last night as I fed Lexi her
bottle right before bed, Rob was sitting a few feet from us. Zoe
said, “Daddy, will you hold me?” After climbing into his arms
and nestling in for some holding time she sighed and quietly
claimed, “I just love this.”
Last night I was reminded once again of what an incredibly light
sleeper Lexi is. I had patted her tummy until she drifted off
and then quickly followed suit. About an hour I woke up coughing
with violent acid reflux. She immediately woke up and started to
cry. While Rob called around until her could find someone who
could share some Pepcid AC with me, I held her and patted her
back. She drifted off but when I lay her down she began to cry
again. After Rob located the med I needed and gave it to me, I
sat beside her crib and patted her tummy for about thirty
minutes until she drifted off to sleep once again. At about 3am
she woke up crying. I quickly fixed her a bottle which she
wolfed down. I was prepared for more crying but that never came.
Instead, after the bottle was done and I lay her down, she went
right back to sleep.
Today is a free day except for a paperwork meeting at 3pm. I
have been the “go to girl” for paperwork all along and this is
the BIG meeting so it needs to be me that attends. I’d be lying
if I did not admit that I am more than a bit nervous about how
this is going to go over. Lexi gets VERY when she cannot see me.
How is she going to handle being with her Daddy and sister only
for two to three hours!?! I’ll report back later and let you
know.
Well, the day is now done. Rob arranged for our group to rent a
bus for an impromptu trip back to the People’s Park in the
morning. Elsie was kind enough to join us. At the park, we let
the children (and some adults) go on many of the rides. Zoe rode
the cars again, and then she and her Daddy went on a water ride.
Lexi and I joined in the fun when we climbed on a rocket ship
ride with Z. It spun much more quickly than I expected and I
found myself gripping the inside bars really tightly to prevent
all three of us from flying out of the ship. We won’t be riding
that again. Scary! That said, both girls loved it! Then Zoe
painted a moon piggy bank to bring home as a keepsake. On our
way back to the bus we learned that one family’s video camera
had been stolen. Thankfully all their previous video had been
backed up to their computer so all was not lost, but still. I
always feel so sad when I hear of people stealing or hurting
others. I think of the world as an inherently good place and it
hurts a little when I am reminded that this is not always the
case.
Upon returning from our trip to the park, Zoe and Daddy took one
last dip in the pool while Lexi and I shared lunch in our room
with Renee and Leah. The girls were so cute as they just sort of
stared at one another waving their hands about.
Then came the part of the day I was not looking forward to. Lexi
began to scream … literally … as I strapped her to her Daddy. I
quickly exited the room and headed down for the paperwork
meeting. The meeting itself went smoothly and we were done
within two hours. Right as we were finishing up, Rob and Lexi
showed up at the door. Rob told me he had been unable to comfort
her, that she had cried herself to sleep for a half hour, and
that when they went for a walk, she calmed down a bit. When a
Chinese woman approached Lexi, she curled into Rob so that is
good. She prefers Daddy over strangers even if she doesn’t like
him much yet. Her lower lip was jutted out in sadness and the
moment she saw me she started to wail! Thankfully I was done
with paperwork so I scooped her up and held her close as I
assured her over and over again that Mommy always comes back.
She is very much like Zoe was in this regard … she wants Mommy,
Mommy, and Mommy of Mommy ALL.THE.TIME! I don’t mind and Rob
understands, but Zoe is taking this particularly hard still. I
finally had a talk with Z last night about how she is not going
to be allowed to carry Lexi for a while, and rather than hold
her sister, she is going to need to sit close to her and just
rub her back, hair, or hands rather than wrap her arms around
her sister. I explained (and will do so again tomorrow) that
Lexi won’t always act this way. But it is still confusing for
Zoe. |
Lexi loved playing in the ball pit.
Safe and sound in Mommy's arms.
Having fun at the People's Park.
On the water ride.
The rocket ship ride ...
we had NO idea what we were getting into!
Merry Almost Christmas!!! |
We need to make this change because
when Zoe does hold her
sister, Lexi arches her back, kicks her little feet out, a
screams a blood curdling scream. I am concerned that one or the
other of them is going to get hurt and I think being held by her
sister is hindering rather than helping Lexi’s bond with Zoe. We
need to take a few steps back and give a little more space and
time for a bond to form between the girls.
In the evening we went out for another group dinner at a
delicious restaurant. The food was wonderful and Lexi ate pretty
much anything I put on the table in front of her. At one point
Zoe needed to go to the bathroom. I could hear the screams from
all the way across the crowded restaurant that ensued after Lexi
discovered Mommy was gone. Thankfully she calmed down quickly
upon my return. That is one good thing. Lexi is very regulated
and calm in my presence. She rarely cries or gets upset when I
am around and when she does, she allows me to comfort her
quickly and easily. Not so much with anyone else though.
After supper we returned to our room and Rob packed everything
up since we leave for Guangzhou early in the morning. The next
time I post we’ll be loving life at the beautiful White Swan
hotel. Until then … |
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